Do you let your husband influence your style?
I’m having a bit of a style dilemma. When I first had my hair cropped (over a year ago now, I can hardly believe it) I bought a few different hair dyes, thinking it would be a great opportunity to experiment with different colours. However, I then started applying for jobs and decided that ‘unconventional’ probably wasn’t the best look for trying to prove my dependability in a competitive job market. Which means that there’s been a platinum blonde hair dye sitting in the bathroom cabinet for almost a year.
A couple of weeks ago, Chris got a new job, and with my Phoenix business going well I’m off the job market (unless I see the perfect part-time vacancy, but as I’m not even looking at the moment, it’s not likely). So I looked again at the peroxide hair dye – tonight I even opened it up and read the instructions (you have to leave it on for 45 minutes while it ‘gently’ strips the pigment from your hair – it’s hardcore!). I’m keen to give it a go, but there’s something putting me off… Chris isn’t keen. He’s not sure it’ll look good, likes my hair the way it is…
He told me the other day that he prefers it a bit longer – as in longish crop, the way it is now after too many weeks regrowth. So now I’m wondering whether to get my usual short crop next time I’m at the hairdresser, or keep a bit of length and get the style neatened up. Personally I prefer the full-on crop.
In a way I’m cross with myself for taking his views into account. Partly it’s pragmatic – I know from experience that he’s wary of change, but tends to like the outcome when I take the plunge. If I’d listened to him I’d probably never have gone for a short crop in the first place, but now he prefers it to the long hair (I think!). But also, I feel that I’m an individual, it should be totally up to me what I do with my hair.
On the other hand, I offer my opinion on his looks and appreciate when he takes it into account: shaving, keeping his hair short-ish – so maybe I’m operating a double-standard here?
What do you think? Do you take account of your partners views when deciding what to wear or what to do with your hair?